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Selling Your Home in a Divorce

As a couple goes through the process of a divorce, deciding what to do with the home they brought together can be complicated. Oftentimes, one person wants to keep the house so they end up buying the other spouse out, or they may choose to keep the home and sell it after the divorce is settled. Others may choose to sell their home during the divorce, which may be beneficial during the divorce process, both financially and personally.

Any profit from the sale is a good way to provide each person with enough money for a fresh start. Selling the marital home and removing the shared investment can provide closure legally and emotionally. Choosing to sell before the divorce is finalized can also help provide each party with the means to deal with other financial responsibilities and debts. Many people decide to sell their home because neither one of them will be able to afford to keep it after the separation.

Before you sell your home, there are a lot of responsibilities because some homes may need maintenance or renovating before they are ready to sell. This takes money, time, and requires some decision-making from both of you. So, prepare yourself and discuss any of your priorities with your divorce attorney. Your attorney is there for you to be able to check in and discuss any final decisions that are made.

If you choose to work with a real estate agent, you and your ex can use the same agent since you are both have the same goal and having someone to help sell the house can help make the process easier. Go over any important factors with your ex-spouse to help avoid any future arguments, which will help take stress off yourself. The best thing to do is to sit with your ex-spouse and talk about any relevant issues connected with the sale of your home.

It’s important to remember when you are going through any sort of family-related lawsuit, the best thing you can do is consult with a qualified divorce lawyer before you take any other steps forward. Divorce cases require a detailed understanding of the facts, the processes, and the law.

If you are filing for divorce or have been served divorce papers, you should consult with an attorney, who can help you with the divorce process and give you advice when it comes to specific processes, like selling your home. At Shaffer Family Law in Chandler, you can have one of our attorneys do a free evaluation of your case! Give us a call at (480) 470-3030.

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How Grandparents Can Help During a Divorce

Divorce is a tough process for everyone in the family, though grandparents are often overlooked during the process. A divorce can negatively affect their lives as well, especially if the divorce restricts access to your son or daughter’s children. Grandparents are generally seen as a source of comfort, fun, and plenty of love for many kids and the stress of a divorce in the family can leave grandparents feeling confused about what their role and relationship in the family is now that things are different. A grandparent will of course want to support their adult child, while also offering support to the grandkids. It is important, though, that caring and supportive role be navigated with care during this difficult time.

Here are a few tips for grandparents on how they can handle their children getting a divorce:

  • Maintain Relationships: When around your grandkids, it’s important that you keep things normal. If you regularly visit them, stick to this schedule as best as you can. This is especially important for those who have a close relationship with their grandparents. They will appreciate you and the support you’re giving them. It’s important to remember that if you didn’t have a very close relationship with them before the divorce, it may be because it’s hard to make that connection at this moment. Still be there for them, but don’t try to pressure them into doing something they’re not comfortable with doing right now.
  • Try not to choose sides: As a parent, you’re probably feeling a sense of strong alliance to your adult. Even if you don’t particularly like their ex-spouse, it is not an excuse to say mean things about this person – especially in front of your grandkids. It’s best to not interfere with the way your grandkids’ feel about their parents. Keep talk surrounding their parents positive, at the very least, neutral. Instead of trying to pry information out of them about the divorce, keep an eye on them to make sure that they are doing well, both emotionally and physically.
  • Communicate with your ex Son/Daughter-In-Law: Unfortunately, even after a divorce, your ex-son or daughter-in-law will be a part of your life on some level, especially because they will either be sharing custody or be the sole caretakers of your grandchildren. So, it is better to find a way to continue a relationship with them sooner than later. When you maintain this relationship, it will make it easier to be around the other parent for moments like school graduations or your grandchild’s future wedding. Of course, if you are close to the other parent, you should take a few steps back for the sake of your adult child and their feelings. Tread lightly, with caution, and with respect.
  • Make Holidays Stress-free: After divorce, you’ll realize that traditions with your grandkids, like birthdays and holidays, won’t be the same. The most important thing you can do is give your grandkids the best birthday or holiday you can give them. Accept the fact that they’ll likely spend time with their other family for certain events, maybe more often than with you, but your time with them will come. Try to focus on building new traditions with them, some that you can carry on as you all move forward. 
  •  Keep calm, carry on: Remember, the important thing to do is to keep the time you spend with your grandchildren fun and positive. Positive attitudes keep things positive for them, especially since they are probably being impacted the most by the divorce. Plan fun activities that you know they will enjoy, which will not only make their time with you enjoyable but will take their mind off any stress they might be going through. Demonstrating how to stay peaceful and calm, even in the face of challenges, will give your grandkids a positive example on how to handle the stresses life will throw at them.
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What to do After Your Divorce is Finalized

What to do After Your Divorce is Finalized

It can be easy to think that once a settlement is reached or a judge has finalized a divorce order, the whole divorce process is done. Well… it is, but it isn’t. Divorce shakes up your life in every aspect and can even have an impact on some of your usual habits. So, don’t be surprised when things aren’t completely over when the divorce agreement is finalized. There are still things you need to do before you can move forward to the next chapter in your life.

Here is what you should handle now that your divorce is finished:

  • Transfer assets: Your settlement agreement might call for one person to receive or keep specific assets or debt? It is not automatically done just because the court ordered it so you will need to organize for any titles to be moved or names to be removed where required.
  • Beneficiaries: Other than your estate plan, you should look at where your ex-spouse has their name. Take a look at your insurance policies, retirement pension, retirement plans, and other programs where you were required to name beneficiaries. Most likely you will want to update them to remove you now ex-spouse and instead include a trusted family member. If you don’t want to have any recipients to your assets, the state may mediate and decide where the benefits are used.
  • Bank accounts: It is common for the newly married to open new bank accounts or credit card lines to share with their spouses. Well, that of course was a good idea at the moment, but now, you should make sure any joint accounts are either closed or the agreed upon spouse is removed after the divorce. Also, double check your automatic deposits and any other payments are sent to the correct accounts. These transfer errors are difficult to fix after the fact.
  • Change your name: Most people choose to go back to their original name after a divorce, especially women with their maiden names. If you do decide to change your name as part of your divorce, you will have to update many accounts and official registrations. These include your driver’s license, social security information, passport, voter registration, bank account archives, retirement funds, insurance policies, and more. While you’re at it, double-check all your mailing addresses for these groups and associations as well.

This list just to show readers what they need to think about post-divorce and is not 100% comprehensive. Divorces all have different things to handle and concerns to address, including those that have to do with children and child support. Even though your divorce is settled, it may take a while for you to get used to your new life. If you are not sure what next steps you should take, your best option is to speak with an experienced family law attorney at Shaffer Family Law in Chandler. We’ll be able to help you and make sure that you make the right decisions.

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Traveling with Children After a Divorce

Child Waiting For Parents at Airport Baggage Claim


Traveling with Children After a Divorce


Taking trips with the family after a divorce should be no different from previous vacations. They should be memorable experiences and usually, it can be beneficial when parents work out a solid plan for how vacation time will be spent. It is helpful to create stability and certainty for children, especially when it comes to making vacation and travel plans.

Parenting during holidays and vacations is usually seen as part of a comprehensive parenting plan. This plan is the basis for how the co-parenting will work since it addresses decision-making on behalf of the children, as well as logistics. The plan should also address any limitations on travel, which generally depends on each parent’s concerns. Here are some examples of questions that arise:

  • Who is allowed to travel with the child?
  • Will a significant other be traveling as well?
  • Which parent provides the travel gear?
  • Will travel include missed school days?
  • How will the non-traveling parent stay in communication?

Developing a plan early on gives each parent the opportunity to talk about any concerns and preferences when it comes to how they believe co-parenting can work. Details can vary between agreements and even when parents have good communication, it is still a good idea to both look at the school calendar and creates a schedule to make sure that expectations are set. This includes:

  • Choosing vacation dates
  • Planning and logistics related to the vacation
  • Travel arrangements and plans communicated through email or text are memorialized.

Once a parent schedules a vacation with their children, co-parenting considerations continue. Exchange basic itinerary, including departure dates, transportation plans (including flight numbers or other tracking numbers), hotels or other lodging information, scheduled activities, and contact information (cell phones, hotel contact numbers, etc.).

You will find it very helpful to discuss how and when communication will take place between the children and the non-traveling parent. Communicating will give both parents the opportunity to address any safety concerns (or other concerns) about the trip.

Traveling internationally is a lot more complicated in comparison to traveling domestically. It is even more complicated because of time differences, technology concerns, and the general idea of the children being in a different country. In addition to providing detailed itineraries, there are other ways you can reduce the stress of international travel for the non-traveling parent as outlined below:

  • Passports: When it comes to passports, it generally involves which parent will hold the children’s passports and if they don’t have passports, which parent is responsible for getting them. You should also agree on a general schedule for when documents should be exchanged between the parents, specifically if the parent going on an international trip isn’t in charge of the passports.
  • Safety concerns:  Parents may want to weigh in on the possible destinations for their children, regardless of who the traveling parent is. Though it may seem extreme, it is smart to be up to date with the current political climate and United States Department alerts and warnings to decide if a vacation in a particular country is safe. It’s important to know if you’re going to have trouble getting in and out of that country.

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Travel-related activities


Different destinations can give you very different experiences. If you are going to a warm, tropical area, like the popular destination of Hawaii, you may have the opportunity to come close to wild animals or to experience adventures like zip-lining or snorkeling. Depending on how old your children are, the non-traveling parent may ask to go over what activities you plan on doing with the kids.

Children traveling alone


There are some cases, especially for parents who travel for work, where the traveling parent may need the kids to meet them at the vacation destination. There should be communication with the non-traveling parent to figure out the traveling arrangements or place certain limitations on how, where, and when the children are allowed to meet the traveling parent.

Cost of travel


Of course, when it comes to whether the expenses of travel for the children, there should be a definite line of communication. While a parenting agreement may not include all the details, there are situations that should be included ahead of time. Life continues after divorce and that includes traveling with children.

It is always best to be flexible when it comes to planning trips. Even if you and your former spouse have an agreed upon travel arrangements, there are situations that can pop up out of nowhere. There may be situations where something last minute pops up and it may require a change in plan. These are the moments where it is best to be flexible, so your children don’t end up having their trip ruined. If you have any questions or if you are looking for representation for your divorce, give Shaffer Family Law in Chandler a call. We can help make sure that the holiday plan that is arranged is fair for all those involved. Call us at (480) 470-3030 today!

Co-Parenting During Vacations and Holidays

As divorced parents plan the first holiday season under new family arrangements, there may be some tension from the divorce lingering around. Each parent will want to spend time with their children, and through formal arrangements may have been agreed upon, but may be hard to stick to. You should focus on creating a co-parenting plan that you both can agree to. The main focus should be your children and providing a happy holiday, which may also lay the basis for the New Year to come.

Co-parenting arrangements


Co-parenting arrangements come in all forms and are tailored for the unique needs of each family. A common arrangement is for parents to annually alternate each holiday. Sometimes parents may choose to split holiday time like Christmas morning is spent with mom and the evening is spent with dad. Another arrangement is to have children celebrate certain holidays the weekend before the actual holiday, and they can then spend the actual holiday with their other parent.

Regardless of the arrangement, there are certain actions parents can take, which could help ease some of the unwanted stress during this time of year:

  • Communicate:

    It is expected that during the holiday season that issues arise and make an impact to agree upon plans. Being able to communicate respectfully and directly with the other parent creates a positive atmosphere and alleviates frustration during an already stressful time of the year. We should all be mindful that nonverbal communication between parents creates just as much, if not more, of an impact than words that are spoken in the children’s presence. Parents that take a unified, respectful approach to parent arrangements and issues that may arise helps to foster a healthy environment for the children. Perhaps the weather has played a role in plans being canceled, or a family member’s visit has been moved to a different day/time. When parents are open to cooperation and flexibility, it helps to ensure that the children have the best holiday possible. While it may not always be possible (or expected) to adjust the schedule, being able to communicate possible problems allows alternate plans to be made.

  • Focus on the Children:

    Families celebrate various holidays and traditions that create lasting memories with the children. While being able to introduce the children to certain traditions is important, the main focus of any parenting arrangements should be to ensure that the children have the best holiday possible. Sometimes it seems there just aren’t enough hours in the day for everything a parent would like to do, and when the time is shared between both parents during one holiday, it can be even more difficult to fit in all the activities a parent would like. Perhaps some activities can be enjoyed either before or after the holidays, allowing the children to fully enjoy the time with each parent.  Taking a child-centered approach to the holiday and showing respect for each parent’s role creates a thread of continuity in families that are now in two homes.

  • New Traditions:

    One of the most stressful parts of the holiday season for newly divorced parents is that many elements of the holidays change due to physical separation. Sharing parenting time can be stressful as the children will be enjoying different activities with the other parent. By starting new traditions with the children, each parent can allow the children to create new memories, rather than focusing on how things “used to be.” The holidays tend to be stressful, regardless of specific family circumstances. The first holiday season after a divorce may be especially hard, as the whole family is adjusting to a new life. With careful planning and cooperation from both parents, the holidays can provide great memories and wonderful moments for the parents and children alike.

It is always best to be flexible during the holiday season. Even if you and your former spouse have an agreed-upon holiday arrangement, there are things that can pop up out of nowhere. There may be situations where something last minute pops up and it may require a change in plan. These are the moments where it is best to be flexible, so your children don’t end up having their holiday ruined. Don’t forget, just a holiday like Thanksgiving and Christmas, only occur once a year, doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate it more than once. If your children won’t be with you on a specific holiday, you can celebrate the holiday during the weekend before or after. If you have any questions or if you are looking for representation for your divorce, give Shaffer Family Law in Chandler a call. We can help make sure that the holiday plan that is arranged is fair for all those involved. Call us at (480) 470-3030 today!

Social Media Habits During Your Divorce

Divorce is not easy and nowadays, there are a lot of people who readily use social media as an outlet to vent their emotions. Social media is great for staying in touch with family and friends, sharing experiences, and meeting people with similar interests. However, during a divorce, social media can be destructive and risky. This is why you should be careful of what you post on any social media outlet and tone down a few common bad habits.

  • Rantings: Although it may help release from stress to express your emotions to the internet. Though, many people seem to forget that anything they put on the internet is far more lasting than imagined. While may not having any bad intentions, sharing any information about your divorce, whether it is details about your spouse’s unfaithfulness or financial issues, should be avoided. Unfortunately, these types of posts could be used against you as evidence in the divorce – even if you’re no longer connected via social media. Remember, they may still find out what you’re posting through friends, relatives, or other common connections. The best thing to do is not to assume that your social accounts are private.
  • Sharing Your Location: Social media makes it easy for us to keep track of one another. It’s almost a natural instinct nowadays to share a picture of yourself on vacation or “check in” at a fancy restaurant or store on Facebook or Instagram. But, if you are going through any type of legal disagreement, you remember potential consequences. Sharing your location during your divorce could give your ex-spouse the information they need to use against you in court. If your post that you’re in Hawaii or that you’re shopping at Nordstrom, they could use that information as evidence that you don’t need as much alimony as you are asking for. In some cases, it could be used to argue that you don’t have enough time to share equal custody of your children. So, during this time, try to consider how sharing your location could negatively affect you down the road.
  • Images of Alcohol: Sure, posting a photo of you and your friends enjoying glasses of wine may be innocent, but again, it could somehow be used against you in court. Any image you post should be considered potential evidence that could be against you. It could negatively affected the outcome of a custody battle, property division argument, or any other part of your divorce. It is especially important because if you are caught drinking, even just one drink, on a night your children were with you, your ex could use it as evidence that you are an unfit parent. Of course, you can disprove this accusation, but it is better not to risk it. Don’t ever share images or posts about alcohol, drugs, or anything else that could be taken as dangerous or reckless behavior. Be sure to tell those friends or family members who like to tag you photos to avoid doing so.
  • Sharing Divorce Material: In any legal case, family law or otherwise, you should never share legal information with anyone excluding your lawyers. While it is tempting to vent about your frustrations online or with coworkers, or even in your journal, you should avoid sharing anything about your divorce plan, meetings with your lawyer, court appearances and more. If you really need support, be sure that the person you are talking to is a trusted friend or family member, someone you know will not leak information.

Remember, social media posts can and have been used in court as evidence against people. It is important to keep any sensitive information to yourself and especially away from online outlets. It not only affects your life but can also make things a lot more difficult on your children as well. If your kids see or hear you saying hurtful things about their other parent, it could leave them feeling guilt-ridden and unhappy. Instead of chancing this, it’s best just to keep any kind of sensitive information to yourself and check in with your children.

Child Support Calculations in Arizona

If you’re going to be trying to get someone to pay child support or will be paying it yourself, you’re probably wondering about child support calculations in Arizona. To find out how much child support is owed to the custodial parent, Arizona law goes by the amount of money that would have been used to support the child(ren) if the parents were still together. The state will take this projected amount of money then take into consideration the gross income of both parents and the amount of time they both take care of the child(ren) in a year to calculate child support. But there could be other factors that could impact the total amount, including medical expenses, educational expenses, extra costs for children with special needs, and more.

Arizona Child Support Calculations


It’s not always easy to figure out child support calculations in Arizona since each case is different. It’s best to go through an Arizona child custody lawyer if you’re unsure of the process, looking to get child support or need to pay it and can’t afford the current payment asked of you despite the calculations. Hiring an Arizona child custody attorney will give you the peace of mind that they’re fighting for your case so that you don’t have to worry about how you’ll support your child or how you’ll pay for them if you can barely support yourself.

Child support calculations in Arizona usually account for a maximum of 50% of an employee’s disposable earnings, when it comes to wage garnishment for such payments. Under Arizona law, the child support garnishments are a priority over other state withholdings. However, the court has the power to base child support on other factors and can deviate from the state’s usual model. This includes the needs of the child, their living situation before the separation or divorce, and the ability to pay by a parent.


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The court will require each parent to fill out a financial statement in order to get an idea of the financial status of both parents. This helps them make an informed decision when it comes to child support for the child(ren). In this statement, parents must be very detailed on their monthly income and expenses in order for the judge to get a clear picture. Although, maintenance of the previous standard of living before the parents separated is the goal for the court. An Arizona child custody attorney can provide a better understanding of these calculations during a consultation.

If a parent is already paying child support for a child from another relationship, some states might allow them to deduct that amount from their net income figure, but that’s why it’s important to complete a financial statement that includes such an expense. Also, a judge in many states can look at a parent’s ability to earn in addition to their actual earning. A judge might order more child support if there is a discrepancy in earnings. Actual earnings are a huge factor in determining how much child support should be paid.

Can Existing Child Support Be Changed?


Despite agreeing on a modification to existing child support number, both parties must have that modification approved by a judged in order for it to be legally enforced. However, when one parent wants more money then they’ll need to hire an attorney that specializes in child custody to help them request the change in court.

An Arizona child custody attorney will help make a more successful modification by arguing the pros of the proposed modification, thus strengthening your case when you go to court. As a general rule, you can’t modify an existing child custody payment order unless the one proposing the modification can show a change of circumstances. This helps prevent frequent modification requests to the court. So in order to make sure that you get the extra money needed, a Chandler child custody attorney will plead your case for you in front of a judge.

Examples of changes that support modification orders in child support include:

  • The loss of a job
  • A job change that results in less money by the main parent
  • A medical emergency for the child
  • The payer’s inability to pay because of an illness or another financial burden.
  • Temporary economic hardship of the recipient parent
  • A medical hardship by the recipient parent
  • Cost of living increase in the state
  • If either parent becomes disabled
  • There’s a change in the needs of the child(ren)

How Custody Arrangements Affect Child Support


The parent awarded sole legal custody of the child is usually the one who receives payment from the other parent. If parents are granted joint physical custody, then their child support obligations will be based on the amount of money that each parent earns plus the percentage of time the child spends with them. If you’re still unsure about custody arrangements and child support, you can contact a child custody attorney in Arizona for more help.

To get an estimate of how much you might owe if you’re the parent paying child support, there are many child support calculators online to help. However, these calculator tools are only estimates and you won’t really know the exact amount the judge will make you pay until a ruling.

It’s best if you contact a Chandler child custody attorney to get more details and better estimates. Our attorneys will also be able to help you fulfill any legal formalities that the court requires in terms of custody support regardless if you’re the parent paying or receiving the money.

Choosing A Good Divorce Attorney

If you’re getting ready for a divorce, you’ll want to hire the best divorce lawyer in Chandler, AZ, to win your case. Facing a divorce can be a daunting and intimidating experience in your life, so you’ll want a knowledgeable, experienced and professional representing you and your best interests in a divorce. Finding a good Chandler divorce lawyer can make or break your case, so you want to make sure that you enlist the right one. But with so many Chandler divorce attorneys to choose from, finding the best one can be a complex decision.

Choosing the right Chandler divorce attorney matters for a number of reasons. Every lawyer has their own ways of doing things and their individual approach to divorce. You’ll want to find one that you believe will best represent your case.

Some lawyers are great in court, but can’t handle a collaborative divorce, while others are amazing negotiators, but aren’t up to par when it comes to taking it all the way to the trail.

Different Chandler divorce lawyers excel at different types of divorces. Some are great at handling financial backgrounds, while others are amazing when it comes to handling high conflict divorces. If you want to have a successful divorce, you’ll have to know how to go about choosing the best divorce lawyer in Chandler who is going to be perfect for you.  

To help you make the right choice, here’s how to choose the best divorce attorney in Chandler, AZ:

 

  • Deciding on what sort of legal help you’ll need

 

Anyone who is going through a divorce can benefit from legal advice, but not everyone can afford a bit shot Chandler divorce lawyer and their hefty fees. But you might not need a big law firm to represent your divorce if you don’t have a complicated situation, such as own a lot of companies, assets or have a complex financial situation. If you have no kids, a short marriage, no real estate, and easy financials, then you won’t need a huge Chandler divorce attorney and can simply hire a qualified lawyer to handle represent your case.

 

  • Figuring out what kind of divorce process you’ll want to use

 

Besides deciding on the sort of legal help you’ll need, you’ll also want to think about the type of divorce process you’ll want to use. This will also help dictate what sort of Chandler divorce attorney you’ll be on the lookout for. There are several types of divorce, including litigation, mediation, collaborative and a few others. Once you know which route you’d like to take, then you can go about choosing a lawyer that specializes in that type to represent you.

  • How much you can afford to pay

The best divorce lawyer in Chandler won’t come cheap, so you’ll need to check your finances to see what you can realistically afford to pay. Be honest with yourself since you don’t want to go broke just on divorce lawyer fees. Finding one that fits your budget is very important when trying to choose a good divorce attorney.

 

  • Do your research

 

Finding the best divorce attorney in Chandler won’t be easy if you don’t put in the work. Ask around for referrals from friends and family. If you don’t get any good leads, make sure to use the Internet wisely. Pay special attention to the site’s philosophy so to get a better idea of their abilities.

Now that you know how to go about finding the best divorce lawyer in Chandler, you’ll need to know what makes them the best choice. Here are some important qualities to look for when searching for a divorce lawyer:

  • Experience and Knowledge

You’ll want to find a divorce lawyer that doesn’t just represent you but can do it really well. To do so, the lawyer must be experienced and have extensive legal knowledge when it comes to various divorce processes. Your attorney should be knowledgeable of all the various complexities of your case so that the outcome is successful.

 

  • Great Communication

 

You’ll be dealing with your lawyer a lot as your divorce progresses, so it’s key that they communicate well. You’ll need to effectively communicate any expectations and concerns and then your chosen attorney will need to act on them in your best interest. If you feel that your attorney isn’t listening to you or doesn’t explain things in a way that you understand, it’s time to find another divorce attorney. The best divorce lawyer in Chandler will also need to effectively and passionately communicate in court so that your case is successful.

  • Vast Support and Resources

You most likely won’t be your attorney’s only client, so you might not have their undivided attention. But a good lawyer should have great support and lots of resources so that you never feel neglected. They should have a strong support staff and have other lawyers to help you in the case of an emergency. Since they’ll also be busy with other cases, resources will be very important so that your case is prepared in a timely manner and nothing falls through the cracks.

 

  • Great availability

 

When looking for the best divorce attorney, you’ll want to consider someone that will be readily available at important points in your case. They should be available when you have questions or respond in a timely manner. They shouldn’t be totally swamped with other cases so that you are still a priority

  • Work Well Under Pressure

There may be points in your divorce cases when things will get heated, so you’ll need a lawyer that works well under pressure. They should be able to maintain composure and have self-control in all circumstances, including in court, when dealing with your ex’s lawyer or when getting back bad news on a case. Surprises can happen in divorces, and your lawyer should be able to remain composed so that they put your best interests first.

Family Court Decorum

When going to an Arizona Family Court for a divorce or child custody proceeding, it’s important that you act in a respectful manner. Going to court is a very serious affair and shouldn’t be taken lightly. Visitors are required to follow a certain etiquette that not many are aware of. When in an Arizona family court for any reason, there are several stated, and undated, rules and regulations regarding conduct and demeanor for audience members, litigants, jurors, attorneys, and other attendees.

While legal professionals learn about courtroom proper courtroom etiquette while in law school, the general public has no clue as to what sort of Arizona family court manner is required and expected. No matter who you are, many of the same rules apply. You must show respect for the court’s rules and in doing so, you’re not only helping the court, but also yourself and your case if you’re there on a legal matter. If you need to appear in Arizona family court for any reason, here are some etiquette rules you’ll need to follow as specified by a Chandler family law attorney:

Preparing for Court

You should start following the court’s decorum regulations even before you show up. When you are preparing for court, it is important to make a good impression on the judge and anyone else involved in decision making for your case. You should always try to improve your chances for success in court despite the fact that your lawyer, court staff and judges are doing all the work. By preparing for court, you’re actually helping them do their jobs smoothly and efficiently.

Things to remember when preparing for court as advised by a Chandler family law attorney include:

  • Arriving early at the courthouse. Being late can cause a bad impression on the judge and the rest of the courtroom staff, which can negatively impact your case.
  • Always plan for delays in transportation, parking and the like. Plan to arrive at least 30 minutes before you were told to be at the courthouse by your lawyer.
  • Know that parking can be a headache and can take a huge chunk of time so arriving at least an hour before a set time is highly recommended.
  • Know the time and location of where you need to be. Courts can be confusing and complex places, so research where you need to meet beforehand so that you know where you’re going the day assigned by your Arizona family law attorney.
  • Always review the documents your Chandler family law attorney has given you and know what you need to bring with you to court. The last thing you want to do is forget critical paperwork at home, which can derail the success of your case.
  • Dress appropriately for court, which includes a suit and ties for men and nothing too risqué for women. You want to look as professional and decent as possible, so taking careful consideration in what you’re wearing is necessary.
  • If for whatever reason, you can’t make it to court on the specified date and time, you’ll want to contact your Arizona family law attorney immediately to reschedule or make other necessary plans.

How to Act When You Appear in Court

Once you’re present at the courthouse, your conduct and appearance will matter. You don’t want to be rude, inconsiderate or emotional in front of the judge or the staff. Judges expect everyone in their courtroom to pay attention and be respectful. Once in the courtroom, it’s wise to follow your lawyer’s lead, be respectful and stay quiet. A court is a serious place of business, so acting in violation of its decorum will result in serious consequences.

In court, a judge represents the law and all important decisions about your case. You must treat them with the utmost respect and address them as “your honor.” Here are a few tips on how you should act when you appear in court:

  • Never eat or drink in a courtroom.
  • Children are not allowed in traditional courtrooms unless stated otherwise. There are certain family courtrooms that are less intimidating for children and specialize in cases related to children.
  • Turn off all mobile devices given the judge won’t tolerate any interruptions.
  • Stand when a judge enters the room. If you aren’t sure what to do, follow your lawyer’s lead.
  • Be attentive in court and listen to everyone talking.
  • Never interrupt anyone speaking, especially the judge. Only one person can speak at a time.
  • To not argue with anyone, even if you strongly disagree with what they’re saying. Ask for your lawyer’s help if anything.
  • If the judge asks you any questions, always answer truthfully. You do not want to compromise your case by lying in court.
  • Always turn to your lawyer if you need help or have any questions. They are there to represent you.
  • Don’t be rude to the judge or courtroom staff. Copping attitude with anyone can make you and your case look bad.
  • No matter what happens, always remain in utter control of your emotions and let your lawyer handle everything.

After Court

Once you’ve appeared in court, your lawyer will follow up and keep you informed of anything else, including necessary paperwork, follow up court dates and the like. Never try to attempt to contact the judge since your lawyer is your representative and will deal with any further court matters if necessary. Always speak with your lawyer if anything.

Making sure you know how to act in a courtroom can help make your case a success no matter what the legal matter is. Once you’ve visited a courtroom for the first time, you’ll come to understand why it’s important you act in a professional and respectful manner.

How to Plan for Your Arizona Divorce

If you’d like to have the best possible outcome for your Arizona divorce, you’ll need to plan effectively. The decision to end your marriage shouldn’t be taken lightly. However, once you’ve decided to separate from your spouse, you’ll want to have a plan in order to save you money, time and stress.  Plus, planning for your Arizona divorce will also help you avoid any potential challenges that might arise in the future so that you can facilitate the upcoming process as efficiently and effectively as possible.

Ending a marriage can be a very emotional time, which is why it’s best if you meet with a Chandler family law attorney. You might be feeling lost, upset, sad and other mixed emotions, so a Chandler divorce attorney can help put the entire process in perspective and help you during this difficult time. The Arizona divorce process can be hard to comprehend if you’re not sure what to do, which is why the Arizona divorce lawyer you choose to help you is important to your case.

You’ll want to hire the Arizona divorce attorney you feel most comfortable with for additional success. But as you go about finding the Arizona divorce attorney you mesh well with, you’ll also need to plan out a few things on your end. Here are a few things you’ll want to be aware of when thinking about the Arizona divorce process:

  •        Those who file for divorce in the state of Arizona must have lived there for at least 90 days before filling out a Dissolution of Marriage petition in an Arizona divorce court.

As you try and figure out which of the Arizona divorce attorney to hire, you’ll want to start planning for the divorce. Doing so will make you more prepared for when you finally hire the right Chandler family law attorney so that the entire process is as smooth as possible. Here are some steps to follow when planning your Arizona divorce:

  1. Prepare all documentation

The first step is preparing all your documents, pictures, records, account details, and more so that you can give it all to the Arizona divorce attorney you hire. Make sure that you’re mindful as to how you access these documents as the situation can quickly change as you file for divorce and serve your ex. Things might get heated afterward so taking full advantage of the relationship before they’re served it is vital to get all the required evidence for the divorce case. Once the divorce is in the process, it can be hard to obtain access to these documents.

  1. Talk to a Chandler family law attorney

You’ll want to seek legal advice on your divorce and talking to a Chandler divorce attorney will help answer any questions you have and provide you with further guidance on how to proceed with the Arizona divorce process. Even if you decide not to be represented in court, the Arizona divorce you meet with will go over your options and let you know about other alternative dispute resolution methods you can also use. Always consult a Chandler divorce attorney before signing any separation agreement (or anything in your divorce). Plan to talk about your specific situation and ask what the Arizona divorce law entails regarding your case. You’ll also want to know about your rights and obligations under Arizona law, what the division of assets and debts will look like, child custody if children are involved and what the laws are in Arizona regarding that.

  1. Get your financial disclosures ready

You and your ex will need to provide financial disclosures, which will be disclosed during the discovery phase of your divorce. To prepare for this, you’ll need to make copies of your bank statements, 401ks, investments, taxes, pay stubs and anything else related to your financials when you were married. This is essential and unavoidable. Don’t just rely on your ex to get everything ready since you’ll need to provide your own copies to your Chandler divorce lawyer. If you suspect that your ex might be hiding assets or concealing past income from you, talk to your Chandler divorce attorney! Also, you’ll need to organize all these files effectively so that your lawyer can go through them whenever needed efficiently. Since marital property needs to be divided when going through a divorce, you’ll need copies of all properties you own together, too.

  1. Get ready for the division of property

Under Arizona law, marital debts and assets are considered community property and must be divided by both parties. So, each spouse is entitled to half of the estate and also responsible for half of any debt accumulated in the marriage. Dividing property in an Arizona divorce usually begins with an inventory of what’s shared, so you’ll need to prepare for a valuation of all property that’s owned together, both personal and real estate. Go through your home and list all furniture, furnishings, electronics, art, collectibles and the like. Take pictures and create an itemized list. Also, write down all real property you own together and any assets at each location.

  1. Create an expense report for your household

Your Chandler divorce lawyer might have you create a monthly household expense report that will include all your bills. This will help them fight for any alimony you might be entitled to.

  1. Have a plan for the children

Divorces tend to get messy when they involve children. Make sure that you stay engaged in their life as you go through this divorce process. If they are old enough, ask what they’d like to happen at the end of the divorce and if they’d be okay with joint custody. Talk with your Chandler divorce attorney about custody issues and the like so that you are aware of all of your options when it comes to your shared children.

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